What is the Best Way to Celebrate and Spend the First Night of Marriage?

The first night of marriage, often referred to as the "wedding night," is a special and intimate occasion for newlyweds. It's a time to connect, relax, and celebrate your new life together. Here are some tips and ideas to make this night memorable and enjoyable.

• Don't put pressure on your partner to "perform". You didn't say if you're male or female or if your partner is male or female, but I think the comment holds up no matter which is the case. This pressure can come in the form of (but isn't limited to) the number of orgasms everyone has. Don't keep score! The goal should be intimacy and fun, not racking up points. (Both genders can do this sometimes.)
• Explore his/her body. Don't be in a rush. The goal isn't to mash genitals together, it's to get to know one another on an intimate level. Touch, kiss, hold, caress. ENJOY.
• Be patient. If your partner is feeling shy, be patient. Let him/her know that hugging, cuddling, kissing is fine. You have the rest of your life to make love to this person. If "it" doesn't happen the first night, that's okay. You have hundreds of tomorrows.
• Ask what your partner wants. But don't be disappointed or upset if s/he is too shy to answer or doesn't know. At the same time, don't judge if s/he DOES know.
• Don't emphasize the first night too much. As I said, there is a lot of pressure on wedding nights, but often, the wedding day is exhausting. So many couples I know said they just slept on their wedding night because they were so worn out. As I said in Point 3, you have hundreds of tomorrows. If your partner falls asleep, cuddle up and enjoy just being alone together.
• I would avoid 'staging'. By this I mean preparing everything to be perfect. It might make your partner feel like a performance is expected and that you want everything to be "perfect". One of the reasons it's important to not have a script already set in your head is that if something doesn't fit that script or play out exactly as you want, it can set a negative tone, which leads me to:
• If anything (or everything) goes wrong, relax. If one of you accidentally bonks the other one with an elbow while trying a new position or someone falls asleep or someone doesn't achieve orgasm or the phone rings at the wrong moment or you just can't get in the mood... don't panic, don't criticize, don't blame. Just relax. You can try again tomorrow. Any negative statements can be remembered and emphasized in your partner's mind 10x. If you can laugh (in a kind way) about mistakes or problems, there will be less nervousness next time you try.

Conclusion

The first night of marriage is a special occasion that sets the tone for your new life together. By creating a romantic atmosphere, communicating openly, and focusing on relaxation and intimacy, you can make this night memorable and meaningful. Remember, the most important thing is to be present with each other and celebrate the love and commitment you’ve just pledged.